It’s okay to have anxiety

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My friend recently said something which has stuck with me which was our generation has been through the most drastic changes any other generation has been through with regards to how we learn, or communicate with others. Growing up computers were only just becoming a thing, everyone will remember the dial-up tone and how every time your parents would answer the house phone you would lose your internet connection. However now, only a few years later, everyone in the world has a smartphone. I’m not saying this is bad but we have had to adapt so quickly to this new way of communication.

With all these changes, comes all the stress of making sure that you’re keeping up with everyone else. Social media sites are one of the worst triggers to cause someone that unnecessary stress. We are constantly posting our adventures and life changing events, for mainly our friends or loved ones, to see and comment. However, we are never really posting about the hard times or the times where we feel completely alone. Mainly because you don’t want to show anyone that you’re not excelling like everyone else.

We have all created this filter, only showing ourselves in the best light. Even when it comes to taking a picture, we now spend 20 minutes taking 300 pictures until we find the perfect one. Only to then filter the crap out of it, just so we can post it on social media to show everyone else. It’s crazy really!

What I’m trying to say is that we need to stop putting so much pressure on each other, everyone is different, however, we all crave the same thing, which is we all want to feel accepted. We all want to show that we are successful.

I have finally accepted help for my anxiety. I’m not afraid anymore of being honest. I haven’t dealt with this move very well. The last four months have been very difficult. I’ve mainly struggled with being alone in my own company. It’s easier when Ben is here obviously, but he has to go away for work. So I have had to learn to be completely independent in a new place on my own, which has been a massive shock to the system.

I guess thinking back I didn’t deal with the move to Norwich very well either. But when it came to moving back to Essex, it was a very sad time because we had to say goodbye to a life we had built up there together. In a weird way, I have to keep reminding myself,  I will eventually get used to being here, just like Norwich. I just have to get it the chance. I felt inspired today to share this with you.

The moral of this post is don’t be afraid to come out of your comfort zone and be brave.

 

 

 

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Perfect Illusion

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Do you ever feel like you could press reset and start your life all over again? Would you make the same decisions or would you choose something else? Sometimes you can feel completely happy and content with every choice you’ve made and other days you’ll want to curl up into a ball and hide away from the rest of the world. 

Lately, I just feel like a failure, I’ve got to a point in my life where I still have no idea what I want to be. I would love someone to sit me down a with a hot cup of tea and tell me what my perfect job would be, and tell me exactly what I have to do to get there. I know that there are people who are paid to do exactly that but am I too late? I’m now in a house, with my boyfriend talking about whether is a good idea to get engaged. He doesn’t really see the point, he said the only things that would change are my surname, and we would own a small piece of paper that says were married.

 For me, Ben is the only thing I seem to be 100% sure of, we have been together for such a long time and I can’t see myself with anyone else. I just don’t want to mess it up. I selfishly think I only want to because it’s something else to focus on instead of criticising every inch of my life and trying to find fault. I want to be excited about something that’s happening to me and not everyone else. I want to feel happy and proud of myself. 

Everyone around me seems to know exactly what they want and are having the time of their lives. Even my boyfriend has his dream job and I feel like I’m just cheerleading from the sidelines. I’m not homesick or feeling sorry for myself, I just feel frustrated at myself for letting my issues mess everything up. Why can’t I know exactly what I want and not be afraid of being rejected? 

I’m hoping that me feeling this way is going to disappear soon but I just get the feeling I need to change something, just so I can dust myself off and get excited about my life again. If anyone has any ideas please let me know.

 

DIY Hair Remedies

Hello Everyone,

I hope you are all enjoying your Friday’s!! 

Today I thought I would talk to you about HAIR...

Since I had that moment of madness and chopped off my hair back in July.  At the time I thought it was the best idea in the world. I know all of you are going to be shaking your heads in frustration but I need my long hair back. I also refuse to buy hair extensions reasons being-

  1.  I can’t afford them
  2.  I look awful in them
  3. I actually lose more hair wearing them

So for fun and because it’s a lot cheaper I’ve been trying out a few DIY hair remedies. Tests show that healthy hair grows about half an inch every month. This means six inches a year. I’ve been experimenting for six weeks now, and I would say my hair has got at least 2 inches longer in that period of time. Which means an extra inch of hair, so I thought I would share some of these hair remedies with you.

Egg and Extra Virgin olive oil Mask  You will need two eggs and two tablespoon’s of olive oil into a jug, then mix it all together. Hang your head over the bath while pouring the mixture over your head, this will just prevent any mess. Then lightly massage into your hair and once your whole head is covered, wrap your hair in clingfilm. If you feel the clingfilm won’t be enough to hold it, pop an old towel around your head too. Leave on for about 20 minutes, then wash out until the water runs clear and continue to shampoo and rinse.

 

  • Almond Oil and Cinnamon Mask– This is a new one that I tried out this morning. Just a quick tip if you’re going to try it out yourself. I would highly recommend doing it over the bath, the cinnamon gets everywhere. I used a good handful on cinnamon and 4 tablespoons of almond oil just so the cinnamon would stick to the hair and scalp. Also if you have coloured hair be warned the mask will strip some of that colour out. After doing a little research according to NatureHelpMe.com-Cinnamon powder is a natural hair growth stimulator. Due to its nutrients cinnamon helps restore and animate even the most brittle and dull hair. Also, it makes them grow much faster. So with that in mind, I’m going to keep using the Cinnamon powder and see what happens. I would recommend leaving this mask on for 20-30 minutes and rinse well before shampooing your hair.

 

  • Coconut Oil– I’ve always used Coconut Oil it’s such a multi-purpose product you can pretty much use it for everything, even teeth whitening. With the help of Youtube, the best way to use Coconut Oil is heating it up between your hands and then massage it into your scalp, massage for a good few minutes. Then you can either use clingfilm or a shower cap. It’s completely up to you how long you leave the oil in for, it can be up to 20 minutes or leave it in overnight. 

 

  • Caffeine Shampoo– My mum suggested this one to me a few weeks ago. I’ve been using it for about two weeks now, I like the smell and a little goes a long way.

 

  •   Juice Plus– I’m still taking my trusty two capsules a day, with a glass of water as this is good for hair & nail growth and weight loss. 

 

I hope you enjoyed reading this and let me know your favourite hair growth products or masks.

 

Lots of Love x

New Postcode!

Hello Everyone,

I think you can guess by the title what I’ll be writing about today, which is I no longer live in Essex.

I now live in Southampton. I know it’s quite a random choice of relocation. Ben had a new work opportunity so we decided together that we should seize the moment and go on this new adventure together.

I managed to get another transfer, I know, another one! But, in this case, I had a lot of positives which came from moving. We finally have our own place!!! Rented of course but still a cosy two bedroom house with a garden, all ours. With possibilities of a kitten!!

This also means we are now able to be a grown-up couple. As much as I love home and Ben’s parents taking care of us. It’s so nice to make our little house into a home. We recently had a few friends over and hosted breakfast and it was so nice to just be us and not have to worry about anything. We both are very house proud! I don’t think I’ve ever seen Ben wash up as much as he does, and I do feel like I constantly have the Hoover in my hand, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. I finally feel like we’ve got our life back! I know it must seem like I live my life through him sometimes, moving around to all these different places but it means we get to experience it all together.

In the first few weeks, working in my new store I been able to learn so much more.  I have also found I’m not as anxious, I did worry that I wouldn’t cope. Fortunately, I have even impressed myself with how well I’m actually doing. I did have a little meltdown the first week but I think Ben was expecting at least one meltdown. I had to face quite a lot of fears in such a short space of time. Motorways being one of them. I think one of the main reason’s for it being such a good transition was we have friends who live around the corner, so we have spent quite a lot time exploring our new surroundings with them.

So, now that I’m settled back into normality my blog posts will be going back to being a regular thing. I love writing them and sharing pretty much everything with you all.

I just hope I can keep you interested.

 

 

 

 

 

I’m sorry…..

It’s been a super long time since posting anything on here, mainly because I just had so many ideas of what I wanted to say and do but when it actually came to writing it down, it just wasn’t working. So let’s just start with what’s been going on in my very boring non dramatic life. To start with Ben has been away for nearly two months. He came home for a few days in may and then sadly had to go away again, but I’m happy to say he is home tomorrow!! So all is right with the world again yay!!

I know what your thinking what has she been doing then, the boyfriend is away and she isn’t writing her Blog posts. Honestly I have been working my little butt off at work and about three weeks ago it finally paid off. I got a little promotion so I’m now a team leader which is the equivalent of an assistant manager for customer services. I’m so happy and the last few weeks I have just been learning my new role and so far I’m loving it.

 

What else is new…. Oh yeah after all the drama I caused with my hair as you saw from my slide show last time. I had a moment of craziness after watching How to be single. After staring at Dakota Johnson’s hair for an hour and a half. I decided that I wanted her hair basically, so I left my mum’s house, got home said hello to Ben parents, ran upstairs, found a picture on Google and started chopping at my hair. I know a moment of pure what was I thinking, however considering I did it myself I don’t think I did a bad job. I let you decide.

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With the new hair, came some random confidence to try some different looks with my clothes. I decided instead of black,white and grey. I’ve added more colour to my wardrobe. Here are just a few of the new things I’ve picked up in the last few months. I thought I would share with you.I’m not brave enough yet to start getting the video camera out so I hope the slide show will do.

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I hope you enjoyed my life update and my look book.

Please let me know if there is anything you would like to see more of.

Lots of Love xxx

My Spring/Summer Look

My Blog is one today, Happy birthday Blog!!!

I can’t believe I have been blogging for a whole year. I’m still completely in love with writing and I love that some of you actually take the time to read it. Thank you so much and I hope your still enjoying it.

It’s finally started to happen, the days are longer, sometimes warmer. The big winter coats and hats have been stored away until October hopefully, I mean it is England. So with summer finally approaching, this means the winter wardrobe can be put under the bed in Hoover bags and we can sort through all the summer stuff. This also means we can buy new pieces mainly because I’m a bit smaller than last year, but you know me I don’t need any excuse to buy new clothes.

If you saw my Charlotte Tilbury Lipstick Blog, you would have noticed I finally bit the bullet and can now say I have Ombre Hair!! It took a few goes getting it to the right shade. but now I’m completely in love with it! My lovely friend Kiera kindly did it for me. Fun fact she the only person in the world that is allowed to touch my hair, apart from me. In the end I had two lots of bleach put on the ends of my hair, the first time I was so nervous so it wasn’t very noticeable. So the second time I was a lot braver, so Kiera painted the ends of my hair and we left it to cook. Using the Pro:voke Touch of Silver Brightening shampoo has been my life saver for getting rid of those copper tones. I also decided that the dark was too much against the blonde so I bought colour before. If you don’t know what colour before is, it’s an activator that just gently removes the colour molecules and lightens your hair.

I’ll make a Hair transformation below.

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I also wanted to show you two of my favourite spring/summer outfits that I’m loving right now. The first one is this casual grey cropped top from Misguided. I love this I could dress it up or down with pretty much everything in my wardrobe. Another positive fact is it doesn’t show off too much skin. I’ve paired it today with my black high-waisted patterned skirt from Sainsbury’s Tu.

My second Favourite outfit  I have paired the trousers with a white cropped top from Misguided. I couldn’t just buy the one colour, and for six pound it would be silly not to buy both. Now I don’t know what you think of the trousers, I really like them. The trousers are actually from Sainsbury’s Tu. These trousers are from the new Premium Collection which launched two weeks ago. So if you like them you should go to your local sainsbury’s and take a look.

I’m thinking of doing more look book’s/ fashion posts, so please let me know what you would like to see.

I hope you all have a lovely week!!

Next time is My spring/summer Make up looks.

 

 

Handling Stress

Hello Lovelies,

After a week away from work to regroup and turn another year older. My first week back has been pretty positive. I’ve been organising my very sensitive head out. Don’t panic this Blog post isn’t going to be a feel sorry for me post. This post is an insight in to what’s been going on in my head. Plus I thought I’d be nice a share some of my positivity with you. So as I love bullet points so much, here are a few quite important tips that have been helping me turn my frown upside down.

 

  • Write down everything that is causing some unnecessary stress in your life right now whether that’s your job, possible friend or boyfriend drama, anything.

 

  •  Now focus on one problem at a time, you can’t fix everything in a day.

 

  • While you’re reflecting on your life problems, also remember you can’t control everything and everyone. Some things we have just got to try to ignore.

 

  • Be selfish sometimes! You work hard and if you want to treat yourself then do it!

 

  • Remember you can say No, don’t be a yes to everything kind of person, because as I’ve previously learnt, people will always take the mick.

 

  • Keep your goals realistic, don’t worry about your three-year plan or your five-year plan because chances are, it won’t turn out how you planned anyway.

 

  • Keep a positive circle of friends and family! Friends and Family are so important to me. I’ve always been close to my family and I’m so lucky in the sense, I have always made some amazing friends wherever I  go. So don’t be afraid to be yourself! You’ll make more good memories that way.

 

  • Exercise regularly  I can’t tell you how much just an hour a day has helped me not have a nervous break down. I’m not saying go every day, but even just going for a walk with a great playlist, makes all the difference to how your feeling.

 

  • Make sure you get time by yourself, not loads but even if you give yourself an hour or two. You have to be happy with your own company before you can move forward.

 

  • This is a big one, not everyone is going to like you! Sounds harsh I know, but to add further they’re also going to think you’re not good enough for anything or anyone too. However, this is how we are going to response to these people. DO ONE! we aren’t here to impress you and finish that with a big winning smile across your face.

 

  • Another very important one, There is never a time limit on your life choices! There also isn’t someone in the background controlling them. This is your life and you are the only person in control of it!

 

See full of positivity!  I hope this helps some of you in some kind of way or just made you giggle a little bit. I would also love to know some of your stress handling tips, so leave me a comment.